tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24198559020521857062024-03-13T14:40:15.239-07:00BALANCING ACTBALANCING ACT: This blog will follow my journey trying to balance being a husband, father, friend, pastor and follower of Christ. I hope that this blog will be a real look at the struggles of trying to be all things to all men so that by all possible means I might save some.Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-56714054647109153942011-06-27T11:55:00.000-07:002011-06-27T11:55:58.625-07:00Attractive<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg2AVg5ev2waCwmhCFMBYVBjYrSWgUAZcbGD8On0WMHFt-ak9MlucqZxI8C89kxZhGL96KbHEPEZV21YM4OOa8r5VeBSswr1XM5fpBcFG8TpVrx3M0MyB0hSqyhj48CZeOb40iB7kV35dxt/s1600/barbie.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200px" i$="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg2AVg5ev2waCwmhCFMBYVBjYrSWgUAZcbGD8On0WMHFt-ak9MlucqZxI8C89kxZhGL96KbHEPEZV21YM4OOa8r5VeBSswr1XM5fpBcFG8TpVrx3M0MyB0hSqyhj48CZeOb40iB7kV35dxt/s200/barbie.jpg" width="147px" /></a></div><div align="center"></div><br />
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Throughout the ages, signifance has been placed on the way a person looks, dresses, smells or talks. In our day and time, the newest thing is face-lifts, botox, physical enhancements, fad diets and spray tanning. Society tells woman they are only beautiful if they have a size 0 waist and curves to boot. We raise our children to see the world through these eyes and are continuing to create a culture that bases everything on a certain look. <br />
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But being attractive is not a bad thing. Yesterday, Pastor Mark led us through a sermon on understanding that we are <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=2%20corinthians%205:20&version=NIV">Christ's Ambassadors</a>. In coming to terms with the fact that we are indeed an ambassador of Christ, we must realize that people are watching us. The community wants to see how we live, how we talk, how we love and how we respond. Truthfully, many un-Christians are just waiting to see us fail and not respond with love and grace and have their opinions of Christians as hypocrites confirmed. Therefore, we have got to take our obligation as an ambassador for Christ seriously. It is an honor and a privilege that God wants to "attract" others to a relationship with Him through me. <br />
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As I was reading through the book of Philippians, I came across a particular passage that stuck out to me. The Message translation says that we are to life a life that will "<a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=philippians%201:11&version=MSG">make Jesus Christ attractive to all." </a>God has chosen to use you and me to attract others into a relationship with Him. Therefore, the way that we live our life must be appealing. We must live an abundant life, a life filled with joy and peace and love. Life is difficult and people are looking to Christians for an answer. <br />
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Does the way that you live your life give others hope?Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-18324268597567763632011-02-15T14:51:00.000-08:002011-02-15T14:51:42.119-08:00Total Failure<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjvvxfr_y9arMBKLj4-0ecpQU6nYrAmGaoIrfxz8geoHYSrsgh8zbwJ1-Y1cigpKPLHKXBPYksfk97MScHQffpy0hEq6b-_ZsDb60WEQO98YevR-pCAZtuInrajT1s8LbZzsivzNO-IhGkq/s1600/jenga.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" h5="true" height="161" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjvvxfr_y9arMBKLj4-0ecpQU6nYrAmGaoIrfxz8geoHYSrsgh8zbwJ1-Y1cigpKPLHKXBPYksfk97MScHQffpy0hEq6b-_ZsDb60WEQO98YevR-pCAZtuInrajT1s8LbZzsivzNO-IhGkq/s200/jenga.jpg" width="200" /></a></div><div style="text-align: left;">I created this blog with a new name and a new direction to keep up the balancing act of trying to be a dad, a husband, a friend and a pastor. Well, my Jenga game, a.k.a. my life, just came tumbling down because I have not posted anything since November. I could give you every excuse in the book; travel, sickness, new responsibilities, adoption, kids, poopy diapers, and the list goes on but really each of those is just an excuse. </div><br />
I am not even going to try and say things are easy or simple because they are not but Life is Good. Our children are wonderful and each day with them is a new treasure from God. I fall more in love with my wife everyday watching as she continues to become the woman that God created her to be. I love my friends, family and co-workers more than I could possibly put into words. <br />
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But even when things seem to be going great, life happens. If you take your eye off of the prize for one second, you may fall. I feel like I took my eyes off of Jesus during this time period of my life. I for sure praise Him for all of the amazing blessings but I was not consumed by him, I was not driven by his love and I have been left feeling empty. This season of my life I began to wonder can a person love God but not be in Love with God and I have come to the realization that the answer is an abundant NO. If you began to feel this way or walk this way, you are becoming lukewarm and there is nothing worse than a lukewarm follower. <br />
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As I search and pray, may you take an honest look at your own walk and see if you are on-fire for God or has your spark fizzled? May God consume every aspect of our lives in such a way that our spark will never go out. <br />
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Humility is something that I struggle with because I believe that to be humble means to admit that you need help. I have no problem admitting to God that I need help but sometimes I have a real problem asking others for help. Maybe it's because I am male or maybe I have this feeling inside of me that wants to help others but never admit that I need help myself. <br />
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Over the past few months, I have learned to humble myself before lots and lots of people and say that I need your help. My wife and I are in the middle of adopting two beautiful children from Russia and the money needed for the adoption is great. We had some wise friends that have adopted several children advise us to ask for help. I remember well Kat and I leaving that meeting and both of us thought that asking others to help us was not something that we felt comfortable with. <br />
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God changed our minds. I think that maybe that was the day that I became a parent. I thought more about my children and how to get them home than I did about myself or asking others to help us. We sent a letter to a few friends and asked them to help and God showed up. Friends, family and people that we didn't even know gave us items for a yard sale. Praise God because we raised enough from the yard sale to buy our remaining plane tickets. Literally, the people that helped with our yard sale are responsible for bringing our children home. <br />
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However, the humbleness did not stop there. God continues to work on my heart. We were asked to submit our story to an online magazine to raise awareness about November being Orphan Awareness Month. Then we were told that for every person that comments on our story, we receive $2 to go towards our adoption. <br />
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<a href="http://sixseeds.tv/s/content/adoption/663-adoption_the_hunter_family">http://sixseeds.tv/s/content/adoption/663-adoption_the_hunter_family</a><br />
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Above is the link to our story. <br />
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God did not stop here. A friend of ours and the lady that cuts Kat hair wanted to help. She decided to have a Cut-a-Thon at her shop, <a href="http://lt-lt.facebook.com/pages/Columbia-TN/ENVY-Hair-Salon/123851904958?v=info">Envy</a>. She will give all of the money raised to our adoption fund. This event will take place Sunday November 14 from 1-4 p.m. She and some her associates will do trims and eyebrow waxes. <br />
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I was sure that God was through but he was not. A lady that my wife and I have never met wanted to help. She decided to have one of those <a href="http://www.thirtyonegifts.com/">31 parties</a>. So she set up an <a href="http://www.facebook.com/#!/event.php?eid=163325227023121">online party</a> where people can go and shop and we get part of the proceeds to help with our adoption. This same lady had her house burn down within the last few months and she lost everything. <br />
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Humbled. I am Humbled. <br />
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On top of all of this, people have been giving us cash donations. It is so difficult to accept money from people. I have seen God through so many people from helping with our yard sale, donating items, bringing gifts to our shower, kind words of encouragement, donations, helping get the word out for our fundraisers and so many other ways that I can not even remember right now. <br />
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And I believe that God has humbled me the most seeing so many people care for and pray for our children without even meeting them. I believe that our children will hopefully never doubt for a second they are loved because of the kindness that you have shared during these past few months. <br />
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I sit here in awe of God and the people that I call my friends. <br />
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"All of you clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble. Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time (1 Peter 5:5-6)."Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-15280127158995891322010-11-04T19:55:00.000-07:002010-11-04T19:55:33.691-07:00FEARWhat are you afraid of? <br />
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I am afraid of all sorts of things. Spiders. Clowns. Spider Monkeys dressed up like Clowns and Heights of course. <br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjAm0j7_TvbACKroaCbYChgY-yCKuNjBXy7vMdKt7v5Sj62z3pIQMh9gLDICitn9AUVR3cKIQGqHcE5Prqk2WzgTo5McIVvxl75zJaMxVsKOiV3ZDqBd3q71bSpYQI7XMRTf4GkNTqGT9mS/s1600/spider+monkey.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" px="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjAm0j7_TvbACKroaCbYChgY-yCKuNjBXy7vMdKt7v5Sj62z3pIQMh9gLDICitn9AUVR3cKIQGqHcE5Prqk2WzgTo5McIVvxl75zJaMxVsKOiV3ZDqBd3q71bSpYQI7XMRTf4GkNTqGT9mS/s1600/spider+monkey.jpg" /></a></div><div align="center"></div>Growing up there was a hit television show called "<a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0278191/">Fear Factor</a>." I always watched and thought that I could go on the show and win with ease. In my head, I would be able to stand up to my fears and overcome them without breaking a sweat. Not sure if this was really the case or if I was and maybe still am diluted in the head. <br />
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What are you afraid of? What are the deep fears inside that you don't talk about? I am not talking about spider monkeys dressed up like clowns (but that would be really scary). <br />
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One fear that I don't discuss or even think about until I decided to type this blog is that my children will not attach to me. Anytime that you adopt, a parent reads material and articles about attachment and the difficulty that can occur. I pray that this fear will never come true. <br />
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Do you fear God? This was a question that I never thought about until Wednesday. My Wednesday night class watched a dvd called <a href="http://store.flannel.org/fear-god.html">Basic</a>. As the class watched the dvd, we all began to ponder the role of fear in our relationship with God. Psalm 111 states that the Fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. We all want more wisdom but I had never equated that Fear and Wisdom were interlinked. <br />
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So are we to fear God? Is there such a thing as a healthy fear? I am not sure I have wrapped my mind entirely around this subject but I plan to continue digging deeper into these questions. Will you join me on the journey of determining how fear plays a role in our relationship with God?Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-54821845875565202182010-11-03T19:35:00.000-07:002010-11-03T19:35:28.165-07:00Birthday CakeSome of you might think that since my wife posted two blog posts today that maybe I am trying to compete with her but I assure you that this is not the case. <br />
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After reading my wife's blog this evening, I felt compelled to post my thoughts. <br />
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Growing up, birthdays were filled with family and cake, friends and cake, toys and cake. It was always a great time of happiness and love. I remember parties when I was young where my friends came to my house and I remember a recent birthday where Kat surprised me and took me to Indianapolis to see a concert. <br />
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However, today our son B turns 2. We will not be there to hold him, give him presents or to watch him blow out his candles and my heart breaks. I know that it seems trivial to some but tears stream down my face as I think about not spending the day with my son on his birthday. <br />
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I hope that we will not miss the 1st birthday of our little girl in late December. If you think about it, will you pray that our son feels God's love on a day that we, his Earthly parents can't show him love.Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-91716234848411463562010-11-03T14:23:00.000-07:002010-11-03T14:23:10.267-07:00BALANCING ACTI am consistently inconsistent with updating my blog. I have great ideas all the time but rarely type them into my blog and thus my blog is rarely updated. As many of you know, my wife and I are in the process of adopting and Kat has been a very dedicated blogger. She has been open and honest about our process and I believe that God is using her ability to write to touch lives in a very real way and I am so thankful for that. She has been trying to get me to blog for months and I kept telling her that I would. Between her pleas and my co-worker and friend's post (<a href="http://tonyamarks.blogspot.com/">Tonya</a>) yesterday that discussed the fact that we should just blog even if it's not perfect, I feel compelled to blog. <br />
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You may have noticed that I changed the name. I feel that with our adoption and the simple fact that my life is about to change, I wanted to change the focus of my blog to encompass my entire life. I want this blog to look at my life from all of the hats that I currently wear or will wear in the future. I had considered writing one blog about my adoption journey and another blog about my career. I think that a life is interwoven and needs to be multi-faceted in order to reach many people. So my hope is that this blog will reach people from all backgrounds and all walks of life. <br />
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Thank you for reading!Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-74211467105080389662010-09-22T09:43:00.000-07:002010-09-22T10:01:31.303-07:00Owning your own SinAs I read <a href="http://www.donaldmillerwords.com/index.php"><em>Blue Like Jazz</em></a><em>,</em> I was struck by this statement made by author Donald Miller. He says, "The entire world is falling apart because nobody will admit they are wrong. But by asking God to forgive you, you are willing to own your own crap."<br /><br /><br /><br />The words of Donald just swam through my mind and coursed through my veins. Our world is falling apart because we can't admit that we are wrong. This statement is so true. Too often we become so consumed at pointing out the flaws of others that we do not see our own miserable failures. We are a society that is quick to become defensive and even quicker to become offensive.<br /><br /><br /><br />We spend way too much of our time concerned about other's issues. I feel challenged to take a look in the mirror and humbly admit to our Heavenly Father my "own crap" where I have fallen short. What would our world look like if more people were able to confess their own failures instead of looking around for someone to blame?Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-83657061259697609062010-02-02T07:00:00.000-08:002010-02-02T07:00:04.644-08:00Deep Thoughts from the BachelorYes, I must admit that I watch the Bachelor. I have already heard it said that I have lost my man card. I understand how most guys can feel this way but I think there are tons of very important psychological items to chew over by watching the Bachelor.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Monday's night episode took place in San Francisco. The Bachelor, Jake, had several one-on-one dates with the ladies. The first one-on-one date was with a girl named <a href="http://abc.go.com/shows/the-bachelor/bio/tenley/355407"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Tenley</span></a>. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Tenley</span> had been married before and her husband cheated on her so Jake was being cautious about whether or not <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">Tenley</span> was ready to fall in love again. Jake asked some questions about <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">Tenley</span> and her state of mind. After Jake's questions, <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">Tenley</span> posed a question that I think has me thinking about how I will tackle the difficult task of premarital counseling in the future. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">Tenley's</span> question is, "What are your expectations of marriage or for a wife?"<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />This question is so deep on so many levels. First, <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">Tenley</span> made the comment that all people have expectations about marriage or about a spouse. I think often times people do have<br /><br /><br />preconceived notions about marriage but they do not articulate them before marriage. This creates many sources of frustration in the early days of marriage because we have expectations that we have not discussed with our spouse but we expect them to meet those or fulfill those.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Another point is that even though we think that we can understand what marriage is all about, we can never fully understand it until we are actually in it. You hear the same adage about not understanding what it's like to have kids until you have them. I agree 100%. You can give advice, you can share experiences, and you can try to prepare someone as much as you can but someone will not understand it completely until they are in it.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Another deep thought gained from the show was a quote from <a href="http://abc.go.com/shows/the-bachelor/bio/vienna/355404">Vienna</a>. Jake asked her what she thought marriage would be like? Vienna responded that she thought marriage would be like they were 2 16-year <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">olds</span> for the rest of their lives. I disagree with this sentiment so much. I want the spark, the passion to be there like we are young kids for the rest of my life. However, I believe that as you grow together, your relationship gets deeper and deeper. It changes. You go from young love, to an intimacy that makes you want to be a better person both for yourself but also for the one that you love.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />The final deep thought that I learned from watching the Bachelor was how excited I was that one of the contestants was saving herself for marriage. Her name is <a href="http://abc.go.com/shows/the-bachelor/bio/corrie/355421">Corrie. </a>For me, it was so refreshing to hear that young women still believe in the sanctity of marriage. I was not raised in a Christian household but I hope that if I have daughters that they will have that choice for their lives and for their future spouse. And even though the Bachelor said that he respected her decision, he sent her packing. May she find the Man that God has in store for her!Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-85525797205473090282010-02-01T18:19:00.001-08:002010-02-01T18:55:13.875-08:00Snow DayFriday Morning started out like most Friday mornings. I got up before Kat left to make her coffee and wish her well as she went off to work. I had to pick my brother up from my parent's house and take him to Maury Regional for a Stress Test on his heart. He had some issues come up on Wednesday night and I had to rush him to the hospital to be checked over. They decided that he needed to have some more tests run to rule out heart problems.<br /><br />As we arrived at the hospital at 10:15 am, the snow started to fall. As we got into the building and Shane filled out his paperwork, the snow had already covered the ground. As Shane went back for his test, the snow fell so hard it appeared liked blizzards in the movies. I started to get worried because I am from Tennessee and have never been in conditions like this. I called my wife and urged her to leave and go home but because her boss was in Nashville, she was unable to leave as early as I would have liked. Shane finished his tests at a little after 11 am and we hurried to leave. As we got outside, the snow was everywhere. We got into my Cougar which is a front-wheel drive vehicle and headed off. We were making progress by taking it slow and that is when I got the call from Kat that she had gotten stuck not far from the Hospital because of a bad hill, bad tires and her inability to get enough speed going up the hill.<br /><br />Shane and I went to the rescue. We were able to get close and parked in the parking lot of the Autism Center. We hiked down to Kat's car and were able to get her turned around so that she could park in a lot. All three of us hiked back to my car and started off. My car was having trouble and I was having to rev my engine in order to move forward because I could not get very good traction. We finally made it to Bear Creek McDonald's and my parents picked us up from there. We called a neighbor to see if they could pick us up from the top of our neighborhood because they have a 4X4 truck. Our neighbor was actually just down the road and offered to pick us up at McDonald's.<br /><br />They picked us up and we headed off. We went to pick our neighbor's kids up first and then headed to TSC to pick up some inter tubes so that we could go tubing down the hill. After that, we headed to Kroger to make sure that we had groceries for the weekend. We loaded up. Then we finally headed back to our neighborhood. The roads were covered so we decided to take a back way that Kat and I had never been down. It is actually almost like a hidden way into our neighborhood. It was such an adventure.<br /><br />When we got home, Kat and I unloaded our groceries and just relaxed on the couch. After just a short time, we heard our neighbors and their kids coming up the hill with the tubes ready for more fun. Kat and I joined in the fun. By the end of the night, we were having a great time. We even added water to the hill so that we could go faster.<br /><br />Our neighbor asked if they could bring some chili over for us all to share. They grabbed the chili and we all had a great meal. The chili was fantastic. We ended the evening by playing a game of Apples to Apples. It was a day of twist and turns, ups and downs, but in the end it was an adventure. It was a day I will never forget. Thank you God for family and great friends that are there when you need them.Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-28066664190466566212010-01-30T20:59:00.000-08:002010-01-30T21:00:34.192-08:00A Devotion for You and Your FamilyAfter finding out for sure that we have no church, Kat thought that it would be a great idea to share a devotion together. When I contacted Pastor Tonya about church being cancelled, she suggested that we encourage families to have their own family devotion. So I thought that it might be a good idea to share a devotion with everyone so that it might be like we are having church together on Sunday even though we can not be together in worship.<br /><br />Many churches follow the lectionary, which is a pre-selected collection of scriptural readings from the Bible that can be used for worship or study. The lectionary has 4 verses for each Sunday from different sections of the Bible: Gospel, Old Testament, New Testament, or Psalm. The verse that I have chosen today is the New Testament selection, <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1Corinthians%2013:1-13&version=NLT">1 Corinthians 13:1-13</a>. As you read these verses, may God whisper his Truth to you and may the words themselves allow you to connect with God in a more intimate way.<br /><br />Transformational love is a love that can only happen when we have Christ as our Lord and Savior. We can love many things from favorite foods, to old comfy jeans, to our pets, but we must learn how to be transformed by God’s love so that we can share that love with our neighbors. May we learn how to love in the same manner that Charles Spurgeon suggests:<br /><br /> "I would, my brothers and sisters, that we could all imitate the pearl oyster. A hurtful particle intrudes itself into its shell, and this vexes and grieves it. It cannot eject the evil, and what does it do but cover it with a precious substance extracted out of its own life, by which it turns the intruder into a pearl. Oh, that we could do so with the provocations we receive from our fellow Christians, so that pearls of patience, gentleness, long-suffering, and forgiveness might be bred within us by that which has harmed us."<br /><br />In this quote by Spurgeon, not only is the Oyster changed by the dirt but the dirt is transformed as well. This is the type of transformation that can occur when we share the Love of God. Not only will we be changed but we will change the dirt around us. I have heard it said that it is easy to love those who love you. I agree. But God calls us to love all. God says to love everyone from that annoying family member that has never been nice to you, to the homeless man that smells and talks to himself, to the friend that wronged you. God calls us to be an <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=2%20corinthians%205:20&version=NLT">ambassador of his love</a>. God wants us to impact our world for him.<br /><br />So as you read through the verses of 1 Corinthians 13, may you see the Love that God wants us all to have. May you understand love from God. May you understand a self-sacrificing love that God not only talks about but demonstrated by both <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=john%203:16&version=NLT">giving his Son to die for us</a> and also by the life that Jesus lived here on Earth. May you not be held down by the dirt that enters in your life, but allow God to change both the dirt and you for the better.<br /><br />May you have a morning filled with the Love of God as you read these words.Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-76298681786959646992010-01-23T20:36:00.000-08:002010-01-23T20:50:27.073-08:00Marcy Jo'sI went to a Songwriter's night tonight at <a href="http://www.joeyandrory.com/Marcy_Jos.aspx">Marcy Jo's</a>. Kat and I have eaten here several times for breakfast and it is easily my favorite breakfast spot. I have never been much of a breakfast person but their food it out of this world. Kat always gets the Stuffed French Toast and she says that words do not do this dish justice. I always get the Sausage Gravy Biscuits which is fantastic.<br /><br />However, tonight was a different experience. The owners of Marcy Jo's are Joey from the Country Duet Couple of Joey and Rory and Marcy is the sister of Rory. Tonight was a special evening of food and music by Joey and Rory. The food was delicious. We started out with a salad and the main entree was lasagna with a cheese/garlic biscuit. We ended our food with a choice of Coca-Cola cake or Peach Cobbler. I had the cobbler and it was delicious.<br /><br />After the food was cleared away, Joey and Rory took the small stage. Growing up I loved Country Music but as I got into high school, I stopped listening. However, tonight I remembered why I loved Country Music. Country songwriters know how to tell the story of life. As I sat there and listened to the lyrics, I felt I was part of the story. I heard songs of life, of love, and of course of cheating. A country song can not be a hit if it does not include lyrics of cheating. Both Joey and Rory sang songs and sang some together. They ended the evening by having Joey's mother sing an old hymnal with Joey and Rory backing her up. Kat thought that she sounded just like <a href="http://www.junecartercash.com/">June Carter Cash. </a><br /><br />We shared the evening with Kat's parents and were at the table with some very nice people. It was a delightful and relaxing evening and you will be sure to find me at future Songwriter's nights around our community.<br /><br />Make sure and check our Marcy Jo's for good times, great people, and wonderful food!Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-46948639751094586192010-01-07T14:25:00.001-08:002010-01-07T14:35:19.524-08:00FuneralsIn the past week, 5 family members of Grace Church attenders have passed away. I have personally attended two funerals this week alone. In the past two and a half years working at Grace, I have attended more funerals than I can even remember.<br /><br />I started thinking of some of the things that make a good funeral that I have seen.<br /><ul><li>Personal stories of deceased</li><li>Stories of the person's faith</li><li>Picture slide show of life</li><li>Family members sharing their personal stories about the person</li><li>A message of hope, salvation, or love for audience</li><li>A challenge to make changes in life</li><li>Sharing of scripture</li></ul><p>As I sat in the funeral today and heard the kind words shared by the pastors, it made me sad that I had never met the lady. It made me reflect on how much time we waste on things that are unimportant. I left challenged to not waste time on trivial stuff but instead to invest my time in people. I want to know people at a deeper level, so that when I attend a funeral I will be able to reflect on my own memories of the person and not just stories of the pastor. </p>Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-40958607339930063992010-01-03T19:47:00.000-08:002010-01-03T20:04:32.018-08:00Things I learned from My Own Sermon TodayAs I looked out during each of the three services and delivered the message of Light and Dark, several things went through my mind.<br /><br /><ul><li>There were people at many different stages in their walk with God. Some believers, some non-believers, some searchers, some <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">indifferent</span> to the whole thing. </li><li>It was tough speaking in front of my dad (It was the first time, he has heard me speak).</li><li>Being transparent is difficult when the ones that you have hurt are hearing you speak. </li><li>Feels that it is difficult to deliver a message that does not include many areas of laughter. Hard to know if crowd is connecting or not. </li><li>I love speaking God's word. </li><li>Three services is mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually draining. </li><li>Feel so fortunate to be where I am!</li><li>Hopes that God's plan includes me staying at Grace for many years to come. </li><li>Glad Kat talked me out of putting a Lord of the Rings reference in the sermon. A Star Wars and Lord of the Rings reference would have been cause to run me out of the church as the Ultimate Dork. </li></ul><p> DH</p><p> </p>Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-48245197832299969482009-07-29T13:28:00.000-07:002009-07-29T13:44:31.807-07:00Facing Your FearsEvery since I was a small child, I have been scared of heights. When I am off the ground, I get this terrible feeling that I am going to fall. The fear then turns into pain, a physical pain that almost inhibits my movements.<br /><br /><br /><br />That is one reason that I am so scared of roller coasters. I despise them. I hate waiting in lines hearing the screams of the people as they possibly drop to their deaths. I detest the slow incline before the death drop. However, my wife loves them. She could ride roller coasters all day long. In fact, the week that Kat and I first met we went to a theme park called <a href="http://www.visitkingsisland.com/">King's Island</a>. All day long, I was riding rides not because I wanted to but because I didn't want to be ridiculed (There is probably a lesson in here somewhere). However, I would not ride a ride with Kat because I didn't want her to know how scared I was. Near the end of the day, I gave up and rode in the same car as Kat on The Son of the Beast. As we started to move, I grabbed Kat's hand. She thought I was being romantic and I was just scared to death and didn't want to die. That is how our relationship started.<br /><br /><br /><br />I use this story to illustrate the depth of my fear. However, yesterday I had the opportunity to go indoor rock climbing with some of our youth group at <a href="http://climbnashville.com/">Climb Nashville</a>. These walls are anywhere from 20-35 feet off the ground at the highest point. Let's just say that it was high enough to freak me out. Not only is the wall high but you must depend upon someone else to keep your rope tight so that you can climb. You receive a 10 minute lesson on holding the rope called a belay lesson. So here I am scared to death, putting my life in the hands of people that have had a 10 minute lesson on keeping me from falling to my death. It was very reassuring. In the end, I faced my fears and traversed a few of the walls. I was not great but I still was able to climb and have fun. Sometimes I feel that we allow our fears to paralyze of us from being the people that we were created to be. Face your fears in the future and trust that everything will be okay. I say this but I'm still not riding any more roller coasters any time soon.Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-48494972325056708242009-07-07T13:21:00.001-07:002009-07-13T14:23:51.919-07:00Road TripTwo weeks ago, I had the opportunity to go to General Assembly in Orlando, FL. Every four years, the Nazarene church gathers delegates together from all over the United States and World. This was my first opportunity to attend. Since my wife was unable to attend with me, I decided it was best to travel with my boss, Pastor Brian and his family. Brian has four children. One is 17, one is 9 and two are 6. Thus, there were 7 of us traveling in one van from Orlando to Columbia, TN. Previously, I had been around Brian and his family many times and loved his children but I can not lie and say that I didn't have some fear and hesitation about being in a mini-van for 11 hours with 6 other people.<br /><br />However, the trip was easy. We traveled for 8 hours the first day and stopped in <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Valdosta</span>, Ga. The kids were great. The next day we finished our trip to Orlando. I had a wonderful time with the whole family.<br /><br />This trip made me think about our travels with God. Sometimes, I feel that we become so scared of the road ahead that we almost become paralyzed and can't move forward. It's as if we do not want to know what's in store for us. Most people, at least in the church would say that they want to walk with God. However, most people want to tell God where to walk instead of following in his footsteps.<br /><br />There was a song that came out within the last couple of years called, <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ky4rfA_tebY"><em>Jesus Take the Wheel. </em></a><em> </em> It is a great song that makes me think that we need to give up the "control" of our lives and let Jesus guide us along the path that we need to be walking.Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-7449288968755217252009-06-18T11:59:00.000-07:002009-06-18T12:22:04.013-07:00Mentally ToughToday, I had the opportunity to play 18 holes of golf at <a href="http://www.saddlecreekgc.com/tourney.html">Saddle Creek Golf Club</a>. It was the first time that I have kept score for the entire 18 holes. I shot a 105. I know that most people will look at my score and laugh. I know it's not the greatest score but I have only been played maybe 40 times in my life.<br /><br />However, today was a major victory for me. I never lost it. And by losing it, I mean that I never got down on myself or lost control because I had a bad shot. Before today when I would have a bad shot, I would lose it and I would be done for the rest of the day. For me, it all goes back to <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=romans%2012:1-2&version=46">Romans 12:1-2.</a> God has changed the way that I think. Is golf really worth me getting bent out of shape? NO! Is life worth us getting bent out of shape and losing it? NO! We have to allow God to change the way that we think. Areas that I have changed the way that I think:<br /><br /><ul><li>The way I view my wife, Kat</li><li>My job</li><li>People that don't get it</li><li>Golf</li><li>Softball</li><li>Friends</li><li>Struggles</li><li>Unanswered Prayers</li><li>Relationships</li></ul><p>Does this mean that I won't lose it next time I play golf or the next time someone lets me down? No. But it does mean that if I let God change the way that I think each and every day that eventually I will not lose it, I will begin to think like Christ, <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=ephesians%204:22-24;&version=46;">Ephesians 4:22-24</a>.</p>Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-20946821794608620852009-06-10T13:01:00.001-07:002009-06-10T13:30:07.274-07:00DisciplineDiscipline is something that I have struggled with since my youth. I have always had a rebellious streak in me and I don't normally like to do things the way that everyone else does. Recently, I heard that less than 3% of the population is disciplined spiritually, physically and financially. I want to be one of those people.<br /><br /><br /><br />Lucky for me, I married my wife Kat who started a job back in 2005 for <a href="http://www.daveramsey.com/">Dave Ramsey</a>. Before that time, I was not <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">financially</span> fit. During college, I maxed out two different credit cards. I always blew money and had no idea where it went. That all changed after Kat and I got married. I am very thankful that I am financially fit.<br /><br /><br /><br />I have played soccer since the age of 5. I played travel soccer all of my youth and I even played one year of club soccer at <a href="http://www.utc.edu/">University of Tennessee at Chattanooga</a>, which is where I went to college. Thus, I have always been in pretty good shape but I have never been in great physical shape. I have never been what I would call "ripped." Hopefully, that is all about to change in the next 90 days. I started a workout routine this week called <a href="http://www.beachbody.com/product/fitness_programs/p90x.do">P90X</a>. My goal is to be ripped from head to toe in the next 90 days. However, for me to achieve this goal I am going to have to be disciplined. I have to work out 6 days a week, doing different routines for around an hour a day. In addition, I am following their suggested diet as well which means lots of turkey and veggies.<br /><br /><br /><br />Last but not least, I want to "spiritually fit." I have had plenty of moments with God and I try to spend time with God. But in reality, I need to be more disciplined. I need to set time aside every day to spend with Him. That is why for the next 90 days, I plan to spend quality time with God each and every day. I plan to read through scriptures, pray daily for my needs as well as others, and I plan to listen. Matthew 5: 48 states, "Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect." Will I be perfect at the end of this 90 days? NO! But I will be in better shape physically, financially and most important spiritually.<br /><br /><br /><br />1 Corinthians 9:24-27 states, "Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last; but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. Therefore I do not run like a man running aimlessly; I do not fight like a man beating the air. No, I beat my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">disqualified</span> for the prize."Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-86825884186681340032008-12-03T06:51:00.000-08:002008-12-03T07:13:17.965-08:00Wake-Up Call<ul><li>Have you ever wondered what it would take for someone to learn something that you thought that they needed to learn? </li><li>Have you ever been in a position where God was trying to teach you something and you didn't want to listen? </li></ul><p>Well, I can hear God loud and clear now. Last week, I was playing basketball and felt my knee pop. I had a M.R.I. and was informed yesterday that I am going to undergo surgery next Thursday. Right in the middle of two projects that are starting that I am leading and I am unable to walk without <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">crutches</span> and am dependent upon others for help. My Boss and Friend asked me what God was trying to teach me. I had no idea at the time but now I understand. Here are a few of the things that I believe God wants me to learn:</p><ul><li>Learn to Delegate</li><li>Learn to Slow Down</li><li>Learn to Think before I Speak</li><li>Learn to Trust Others</li><li>Learn to Make Time for God</li><li>Realize that I am not Superman or <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Super pastor</span></li><li>Realize that I need to be more Humble and less Prideful</li></ul><p> </p><p>If you feel that God is trying to teach you something, listen. Don't learn the hard way!</p>Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2419855902052185706.post-46535258888545849522008-11-12T14:15:00.000-08:002008-11-12T14:51:44.177-08:002nd SaturdayI have heard it said from several employees of Rick Warren at <a href="http://http//saddleback.com">Saddleback Church </a>in California that he wants them to "Fail Faster." When I first heard this saying, I did not quite understand it. First, why would anyone want to fail? And second, why would they want to fail at an accelartaed pace?<br /><br />As I have been working at Grace for over a year now, I now understand that I have to fail and fail fast in order to grow. We as leaders can not be afraid to try something new and fail. In fact, if we are not failing, then we are not having large enough dreams. We have to dream dreams that are so big that only God could accomplish them. If we do this, God gets the glory.<br /><br />I say all of this to say that we are going to be trying new things, bringing in new ministries, and changing some things up a little bit. One new minsitry that we started was 2nd Saturday. We started this last week and had around 30 people split up doing two different types of service. One group took trash bags and cleaned up the neighborhood that our church is located in and the other group cleaned up and mowed a Historic Cemetery that is located just behind our property.<br /><br />We hope that this is a ministry that continues to grow each month. Next month we are going to help spread the Christmas Cheer by teaming up with <a href="http://www.chatoday.org/">Columbia Housing Authority </a>and have a Christmas Party for the residents.<br /><br />Can't wait to see you Next Month!Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04465916110754953580noreply@blogger.com0